A metal spoon and a wooden one sit in the same drawer at the same 20°C. The metal feels colder.
The reason is thermal conductivity — how fast a material moves heat. Metal is high, wood is low, so metal pulls warmth from your hand hundreds of times faster.
That rush of heat leaving your skin is what you read as "cold." The wood barely takes any.
Same temperature, different feel. It's not perception — it's physics.